Medical Decisions

After recovering from the midweek drama I was looking forward to spending some time with Superman. On Sunday, we went to breakfast and then furniture shopping. We even took the time to look at name books at Borders and finally decided on a middle name for Kent. We go home to get ready for church when a text message comes in from Krypto.



I need you to call me.



This message bothers me to no end. She never asks, or calls first, or attempts to leave a message. She expects him to immediately call with no respect for our schedule. He replies to her asking for more information. Ultimately, texts are traded back and forth with no real information being gathered. The last one, states Superman must not want to help and she'll let him know if Clark goes to the hospital. Now she knows that will be a reaction out of him. And of course he has to call.



She proceeds to tell Superman, Clark has thrown up 20 times today and had diarrhea three times. Now keep in mind, she is known for blowing things out of proporation. To ease Superman's mind, I give him questions to ask to determine if Clark may be getting dehydrated. Has he gone to the bathroom? How often? What do his lips look like? What about his tongue?


She is desribing someone who is fine and not suffering from anything except maybe a stomach virus at this point. She of course wants Superman to make a decision whether or not to take him to the emergency room.


We have discussed this before. Whoever has Clark will be the one to make the decision regarding his care. If we were to make the decision it would surely be thrown back in our faces and if she can handle joint custody she needs to be comfortable making medical decisions.


I am now attempting to find information on after hour clinics. The one we usually use is of course about to close. We ask if she attempted to treat with anything over the counter. She states she went to one store and they didn't have anything so she came home. We ask if she attmepted to get into the clinic. She states the phone was busy. FYI. Its walkins only. No appointments and she knows this.


So what happens. The pretend mommy get on the internet and searches for clinics in our area that are still open. I call 8 different one until I find one in a nearby city that stays open late. I call the clinic to verify all the necessary details. They will be able to see Clark if she is there by 7:30. I get the phone number, addresss, and provide it to Superman who passes along to Krypto. Superman still will not make the decision for her. He tells her if she decides to take him then she needs to contact him.


I am upset. I may be the pretend mommy but why was she not doing this? If our situations were reversed and I had had Clark when he was sick I would have been calling in the morning not waiting until the last minute.