Monday, December 5, 2011

So it begins

Last week, Superman sent the email to Krypto about the change in childcare and informed her of Clark's last day at after school care. And then...nothing. No response. No nasty texts. No hateful emails. So we waited. And waited.

On Sunday, he decided to text her and make sure she had no desire to put the account in her name. She simply said she had made an appointment with her attorney and the childcare would be putting Clark on the waiting list once the two weeks were up. She went on about how it was in Clark's best interest to stay in care and how it was not discussed with her. She went on to say because of joint custody the decision should have been agreed upon.

Superman merely responded the order states he must provide childcare and if she decides not to use what we provide she has every right to seek other care however at her own expense.

I just can't believe she doesn't see the difference. The papers don't require a level of childcare in fact it states "sitter". She says its whats best. Does she not understand if we can't afford it then it falls upon her to get it if she thinks it's what's best. So if Superman decided private school was what was best would she agree to pay for half? I somehow doubt it. She can be very picky when it's not her money she is playing with.

Now I am stressed out again. I know this is what we both expected but now that its actually happening it bothers me. I know she can't file contempt but that doesn't mean her attorney won't do it. I know she could force mediation but it would solve nothing since Superman will not agree to pay for childcare when I'm staying home. Why can't things just be easy? Hopefully her attorney will tell her she'll just have to deal with it if she doesn't want to pay for it herself. Fingers crossed and praying that a judge would see it wouldn't be fair for 2 kids to go to childcare because of a selfish mother of another.

2 comments:

Lindsay Lou said...

It's not "better for the child" to be in childcare. It's just what she wants so she can still feel like she has control. I'm hopeful that her attorney will dissuade her from pursuing mediation, for your stress-sake. Try not to worry too much, she's just throwing a temper tantrum and will eventually get over it when ignored.
On a side note, isn't baby due any day now? Hope all is well!

The Step In Mom. . . said...

Our CO is the same way. Dh had to provide childcare. For awhile I got off work early enough to get SS off the bus everyday, so I was the childcare. BM didn't like it, so for a few months she made other arrangements with her mother. Then at the end of 5th grade, DH was unemployed, and BM didn't want SS staying home alone while she worked. DH said he would watch SS on her days, but she didn't want to drive to our house, therefore she had to pay the sitter herself. And we made it crystal clear that any daycare needed to be paid by BM, not by us.