We decided after some long discussions that Lois's room should not sit vacant waiting on the chance she might decide to come spend the night. At first, Superman was hesitant about changing the rooms around. He was concerned she would think we were pushing her even farther away. I tried to express to him the unfairness of the situation. Our son, who is the only child here 24/7, did not have a room and would soon be turning a year old. Was it really fair to ask Clark, who is here half the time, to share with his brother while a room sits empty?
We decided before Kent was born we would leave the kids in their rooms. It wasn't worth moving everyone around. Kent would be in our room for some time anyways. I compromised on having a cute nursery for the time being. It was more important to make the transition easier. But now I can not imagine the reason for leaving half of the bedrooms sit empty except for 4 nights a month.
Lois was told it was not a revolving door when she decided to leave. She could not bounce from one house to the other if she was upset with the rules. She was told she would always have a bed to stay if she wanted to visit. And she does, just like any other family that stays with us. Its the bottom bunk. It sleeps quite nice I'm told.
Clark is excited about the move. We are transitioning him to Lois's room since it is farther away than his old room. Kent will be moving in Clark's old room. Clark showed her what was going on when she was over last night. She apparently asked Superman about the move before I got home. She asked why he was moving. He tried to explain the boys deserved to have their own rooms since Lois was no longer living here. He explained the room shouldn't sit empty. She was surprised and said Lois was going to come over on weekends. (Which she hasn't.) Superman told her she hadn't come over since she left and enough time had passed to show she wasn't going to be coming over enough to make it fair to leave it.
What are we supposed to do? Make a shrine to her. Honestly.
When Luther's daughter was asked to leave their house, I mean, when it was mutually agreed it would be best if she left the house, the rooms were reassigned the same night. But I guess there are different standards that we are being judged by.
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I remember going through those same kind of feelings and bedroom issues. We have no bios together, but I have 3 boys fulltime and hubby has a daughter and son part time. It meant that bedroom sharing was inevitable and having one girl made that tricky. I thought it seemed crazy to make the 3 boys share a room while another room sat empty for all but 4 nights a month. So we ended up putting the youngest in the room with the girl (he was only 3) and then three beds in the other bedroom. So,steps still sleep in rooms alone when they are here, since mine are visiting their dad that same weekend and it's turned out okay.
If it makes you feel better, my own biological parents torn the wall down between our bedrooms when I went to college to make themselves a mastersuite. I survived not having a bedroom, bed or even a dresser of my own!
So what are the themes for the boy's rooms? I mean you did miss out on the nursery..whatcha got in store for the big boy room? Just curious.
I have decided on blue and white stripes on the bottom half of the wall with green on the top. Here's a picture of the bedding.
http://www.beyond-bedding.com/modern-argyle-green-fitted-sheet-boy-crib-bedding.html
My wonderful husband is willing to do the striping. Hopefully the wall will look like the skirt.
Zoiks it's time like this I'm glad that he has only one kid.
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